Last week the Couple's Corner presented the topic of Attachment and Jealousy, discussing the connection between both subjects and relationship dynamics. This week we present the Attachment Questionnaire and Jealousy Scale. Please take your time to read through the questions and answer them.
We want couples to get closer by getting to know each other better. If any of these quizes present any conflict between you and your partner, we highly suggest you talk about it, and consider seeking professional help if necessary.
ATTACHMENT QUESTIONNAIRE
ECR-Short Form Inventory
Wei, Russell, Mallincrkrodt, & Vogel
(2007)
The following statements concern
how you feel in romantic relationships. We are interested in how you generally
experience relationships, not just in what is happening in a current
relationship. Respond to each statement by indicating how much you agree or
disagree with it. Write the number in the space provided, using the following
rating scale:
1
|
2
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3
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4
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5
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6
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7
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Disagree
Strongly |
Neutral/
Mixed |
Agree
Strongly |
___ 1. It helps to turn to
my romantic partner in times of need.
___ 2. I need a lot of reassurance
that I am loved by my partner.
___ 3. I want to get close to my
partner, but I keep pulling back.
___ 4. I find that my partner(s)
don't want to get as close as I would like.
___ 5. I turn to my partner for
many things, including comfort and reassurance.
___ 6. My desire to be very close
sometimes scares people away.
___ 7. I try to avoid getting too
close to my partner.
___ 8. I do not often worry about
being abandoned.
___ 9. I usually discuss my
problems and concerns with my partner.
___ 10. I get frustrated if
romantic partners are not available when I need them.
___ 11. I am nervous when partners
get too close to me.
___ 12. I worry that romantic partners
won't care about me as much as I care about them.
JEALOUSY SCALE
In this quiz, scores that are higher indicate higher jealousy – We highly suggest couples to identify these and talk openly with their partner about
the situations, and seek professional help if needed.
HYPOTHETICAL, JEALOUSY PRODUCING EVENTS
SCALE (HJPE)
(Hansen, 1982)
By circling a number, please indicate how you would feel
about your mate’s behavior in each of the following hypothetical (imaginary)
situations.
In each case, “1” indicates that you would be extremely pleased
with the situation, while “11” indicates that you would be extremely disturbed
or bothered by the situation.
- Your mate has a job which requires him/her to
work a normal 40 hours per week. In addition to working these 40 hours per
week, your mate feels very committed to his/her job and devotes, on the
average, an additional 10 hours per week to work-related activities which
require him/her to go back to the office in the evenings and on weekends.
Your mate does not received extra pay for these activities.
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2.
Your mate enjoys a personal hobby such as painting, photography, etc., and
devotes a large proportion of his/her leisure time (approximately 15 hours per
week) to its pursuit. This hobby is one you do not share with your mate so
he/she engages in it alone. (The hobby does not impose a financial burden).
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3.
You and your mate have just had a baby. Your mate is very devoted to the child
and concerned about its welfare. As a result of this devotion and concern, your
mate devotes nearly all of his/her free time to playing with and taking care of
the child, which ahs drastically reduced the amount of time you and your mate
have for doing things alone with each other.
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4.
Your mate regularly enjoys playing cards or other times of games with his/her
same-sex friends. Your mate’s “night with the boys/girls” occurs about once a
week.
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5.
Your mate has become good friends with a co-worker of the opposite sex who you
do not know very well. Your mate and his/her friend enjoy having lunch
together, discussing their respective lives, and providing each other emotional
support. (Their relationship does not have a sexual component.
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6.
You and your mate live in the same town as his/her parents and siblings. Your
mate has set aside Sunday afternoons for doing things (e.g. going fishing,
playing golf, visiting) with his/her family members. You do not participate
with your mate in these activities with his/her family.
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7. Your mate returns from a
business trip to a different city and informs you that he/she met a
member of the opposite sex
that he/she found very physically attractive. They ended up engaging in
sexual relations. Your mate
informs you that their relationship was purely physical (not emotional)
and that they will never be
seeing each other again.
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8.
Your mate has developed an ongoing emotional and sexual relationship with a
member of the opposite sex. Your mate receives a high degree of satisfaction
from this relationship and plans to continue it. Both you and your mate have
been happy and pleased with your own relationship. Your mate views his/her
outside relationship as a supplement to, not a substitute for, the relationship
between the two of you.
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